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Behavioral Change is Artificial and Unsustainable

Behavioral Change is Artificial and Unsustainable

images-3An attempt to change our behaviors apart from the motivating work of the gospel is a fool’s mission.

Jesus said, “Without me you can do nothing.”

This is quite remarkable! Christ must be in us and we must be in him if we desire real change! Therefore, to attempt change without Christ is at best superficial and temporary.

Without the foundation of Christ, all our change would be like building a house on sand. (See Matthew 7:24-27) The change process will not be able to stand the test of time and trouble.

A simple analogy may shed some light on the biblical theology for change. At birth, my daughter Ansa received all she needed to grow normally. She did not need to wait to receive more than what she received at birth in order to grow into an adult. However, what she must do, now that she has “all the parts” necessary to reach adulthood is to continue to strengthen herself throughout her young life in order to grow into full, physical maturity.

For her to attempt to grow without being born defies common sense.

Similarly, at our spiritual birth, when we are “born again” (John 3:3) we receive all we will ever need to grow into a normal, vibrant and joyful Christian.

His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence, by which he has granted to us his precious and very great promises, so that through them you may become partakers of the divine nature, having escaped from the corruption that is in the world because of sinful desire (2 Peter 1:3-4).

If you are a Christian, you have all you need to change, grow and mature and Paul gives you a glimpse in Ephesians 4:22-24 of how this transformational process can take place.

…to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.

We see that if we have put off the old man and put on the new man (i.e., the act of salvation), and continue to cooperate with the Holy Spirit to be strengthened by His renewing work, only then are we ready for progressive and lasting change!

First things first

Therefore, the first question we ask if you want to change pertains to the new birth. If you have not been born again, it would be like my daughter attempting to grow without being born the first time.

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Behavioral Change is Not Effective Over the Long Haul

Behavioral Change is Not Effective Over the Long Haul

imagesTypically people come to counseling looking primarily for behavioral change. The counselor also would like to see behavioral change in those he/she serves.

Though a counselee and counselor’s goals may be similar, our methods for reaching those goals typically differ. Rarely does a counselee initially see the importance of working at a deeper level than the surface where change is seen.

All too often, the desire of the counselee is to experience change in their situation because the “heat” they are going through seems unbearable. For some counselees, fixing a problem externally is all they care about.

From a Christian counselor’s perspective, we know that problems in the “fruit” of someone’s life (outward behavior) have their genesis in the roots (inner desires and motives) of their life. And if the root (core) problems are not addressed, the chances of the fruit reproducing in the future are assured (see Matthew 7:16-20; Luke 6:43-54).

Christian counselors are not opposed to encouraging people to make behavioral changes. For example, in Ephesians 4:25-32 Paul teaches about certain behavioral changes that need to take place. Here is a sampling:

  • Stop lying and start speaking the truth
  • Do not be sinfully angry and thus give place to the devil
  • Don’t steal; instead, get a job and share with those in need
  • Don’t use your mouth for evil but for good
  • Don’t be unkind or bitter; rather, be loving and forgiving

At the same time, character transformation is not as easy as telling someone to stop a bad behavior and start a good one! I think Paul agrees. If we take this Ephesians passage in context, which begins at 4:17, we discover that Paul pours a theological foundation long before he addresses the behavioral changes that need to take place.

In other words, before Paul launches into how we should behave, he lays a solid theological framework that is grounded in the gospel.

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