Sally said during one of her counseling sessions that her dad was unstable and it typically worked out in angry, verbal outburst toward her and her three siblings. She’s nineteen now, but remembers in vivid detail balling up in a fetal position many nights as she listened from her bedroom the “fights” between her dad and mom.
Her mom worked full-time outside the home. For the most part, Sally reared herself during the day, while at night she lived in low-grade fear of her dad. During high school she dated many different boys and was promiscuous with most of them.
She just broke up with another boyfriend and is seeing you for counsel. From her perspective she is suffering from low self-esteem. She has read In Search of Significance and several other self help books, which is how she came to her conclusion. She became a believer two years ago, but has grown very little, due to lack of connection with her local church.
Application Questions:
- Is her problem low self-esteem? Why did you answer the question the way you did?
- What is the difference (if any) between low self-esteem and low self-worth?
- What book(s) would you suggest she read? Why?
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I discern a disconnect. There is no connection with her mother or father. Little connection with herself. She does not appear to have a connections with herself. She does not in my opinion need a book to read but a Christian Companion to mentor her. Her first connection has to be someone who can provide the possibility of connection by modeling a Christian life.
She is too focused on self. Sally needs to change her attention off the introspection of self, and begin to renew her mind through loving God and others. Sally will find freedom as she learns to trust in God and walk in obedience to His will. Her intense attention to self will change to a thankfulness and fervent desire to please God as she grows in His grace and truth.