Comments on: Case Study: Confession of an Impostor’s Wife http://www.competentcounseling.com/2009/07/17/confession-of-an-impostors-wife/ People Seeking Solutions Thu, 09 Sep 2010 03:59:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Stuart Heights Biblical Counseling Team http://www.competentcounseling.com/2009/07/17/confession-of-an-impostors-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-1256 Stuart Heights Biblical Counseling Team Sat, 29 Aug 2009 20:39:58 +0000 http://christiancounseling.wordpress.com/?p=122#comment-1256 1. The first concern is whether or not she is a believer. Her relationship with Christ is questionable because of her statement, “I went to a bible study and learned what it meant to be a Christian, e.g. discipline, commitment, being nice, and Christian duty. So I gave them a try.” There appears to be no heart change and a view of salvation that is based on works. Once it is confirmed that she is a believer then the next step is to help her develop a daily consistent time in the Word and prayer. The focus of these studies being the nature of God and his ability to meet every need of the heart, soul and life. We would encourage her to get involved in a study where she can develop relationships with mature women and of course attend worship services regularly. How to involve the husband? 2. We would encourage the wife to share with her husband the things she is learning. We would also encourage her to invite him to come to the sessions. Above all we would help her to learn to pray specifically for her husband because only God can change a heart. If the husband does not repent: 3. We would instruct the wife on how to live and please God and to persevere through the trial. Also we would teach her how to love her husband unconditionally and give her some practical suggestions. 4. Once the Counselee is growing in her faith and active in church she can decide when it would be best to get someone to talk with her husband. Perhaps as she develops friendships there will be a husband of one of the women she regularly interacts with who will get involved in his life. 1. The first concern is whether or not she is a believer. Her relationship with Christ is questionable because of her statement, “I went to a bible study and learned what it meant to be a Christian, e.g. discipline, commitment, being nice, and Christian duty. So I gave them a try.” There appears to be no heart change and a view of salvation that is based on works.
Once it is confirmed that she is a believer then the next step is to help her develop a daily consistent time in the Word and prayer. The focus of these studies being the nature of God and his ability to meet every need of the heart, soul and life. We would encourage her to get involved in a study where she can develop relationships with mature women and of course attend worship services regularly.

How to involve the husband?

2. We would encourage the wife to share with her husband the things she is learning. We would also encourage her to invite him to come to the sessions. Above all we would help her to learn to pray specifically for her husband because only God can change a heart.

If the husband does not repent:

3. We would instruct the wife on how to live and please God and to persevere through the trial. Also we would teach her how to love her husband unconditionally and give her some practical suggestions.

4. Once the Counselee is growing in her faith and active in church she can decide when it would be best to get someone to talk with her husband. Perhaps as she develops friendships there will be a husband of one of the women she regularly interacts with who will get involved in his life.

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